• illi@lemm.ee
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    2 months ago

    I would love to be able to do this. I always jump right to problemsolving mode. At best I realize my mistake halfway throgh.

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      2 months ago

      Keep working on it, it takes so much effort on my part to be like “man that really sucks” or “wow that sounds really frustrating” for the most part my SO knows the solution and just wants to be heard.

      I’ve overheard her talking to her mom on the phone how supportive I am and how good of a listener I am. This is the first relationship I’ve managed to do these things and we’re getting married in 4 weeks :)

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        2 months ago

        It can also be nice to ask “what have you already thought of” once you reach the solutions stage. Offers another chance for connection and making them feel like you are not assuming they haven’t thought of anything yet.