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  • Solving it in his state is certainly a good way of spearheading a national solution.

    As for you considering the statement racist: I was expecting a lot worse based on the headline. I don’t think grouping by race when looking at health statistics is inherently racist. Race can be relevant to health outcomes, among other reasons due to racism, and so one should be allowed to discuss that.

    Deciding to ignore the problem because it predominantly affects a certain race is racist, but that wasn’t what was stated in the quote earlier in this thread, despite the headline suggesting it was.



  • I’d say the only difference is that when you “have a filter” you may reword the statement before uttering it, but when you self censor you omit the statement altogether.

    It certainly doesn’t need to be incriminating. A lot of discourse about self censorship discusses how young people often don’t express their opinions online, because they don’t want to get into some drawn-out discussion which ultimately results in everyone still maintaining the same opinions. It’s a waste of time and not good for your mental health. In that scenario the self-censorship is not about avoiding incriminating yourself, but about not triggering some situation you don’t want to be in.


  • Everyone does, often unconsciously. You know nothing good will come out of mentioning something in present company, so you don’t.

    You don’t bring up politics while that weird uncle is visiting for Thanksgiving. You don’t bring up stuff you know will upset your friend. You answer “I don’t know” when a cop asks you if you know why you got pulled over. There’s endless situations where you know it’s best not to say anything, and a few where you quickly learn not to say anything next time.

    Life would be very difficult and cumbersome if you didn’t self-censor to at least some extent.









  • It looks like you’re relying on media automounting to access the drive, but this is happening too late for Docker.

    I would suggest creating the empty folder and explicitly adding the mount to /etc/fstab instead. This should mount early enough, and even if it doesn’t it needs an empty folder for the mount point anyway.

    Edit: Make sure you reference the partition by UUID, because the device name of USB devices sometimes change after a reboot.




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    5 months ago

    I don’t think you’re disregarding me, your concerns are valid and natural. It sounds like you’re having a tough time emotionally right now, just in a different way than before.

    It honestly doesn’t sound like it would be healthy for you to pursue a relationship right now. You clearly have feelings for your friend, and while you logically know it can’t happen, you’re not quite over her emotionally. Getting into a relationship, or even dating, someone else at the moment isn’t healthy for you, and also isn’t fair to the person you’d be dating. You need to work on getting over your friend first, before adding more people to the mix.

    Do you have a therapist? You hopefully do, considering your history of suicidal ideation. If you have upcoming therapy sessions, I suggest bringing your crush on your engaged friend up to your therapist, and they might be able to help you process things. You might also want to dial down your interactions with that friend for a while.

    When you feel ready to put yourself out there, I would personally not try to approach anyone at work. If it happens naturally that’s okay, but I would personally prefer not to mix my dating and professional life if I could avoid it. Maybe there is some activity you could do once or twice a week where you’d meet people? I met my wife at an event at a local climbing gym. There are also dance classes, mountaineering clubs, art or pottery classes, and other activities which you might enjoy while meeting women with similar interests.


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    It’s not you, dating is just awful. I suggest not doing it. You’ve entered relationships before without dating, you can do it again. I have personally found that I’m a lot more attractive when I’m not actively trying to woo someone.