This may help
https://bsky.app/profile/finallynoelle.dems.social/post/3ljtbr7hlh22q

Maybe you need to start thinking about if your partner is good for you. Are they controlling literally every aspect of your life?

It fucking does not and does everything in its power to stop kids from transitioning. No kid can just show up somewhere and be given hormones. No one is profiting off of selling hormones. They are dirt cheap. You’re clearly getting your talking points from right wing media, maybe go listen to what actual trans kids have to say about their experiences and kindly shut the fuck up

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I’m surprised they even want to admit that it’s real

Going to attempt to throw my 2¢ in. Love the thorough discussion so far. Hopefully it’s okay.
When someone displays behaviors or signs of being trans, it can be tempting to shout “egg!” since so many of us feel silly and ignorant about our past behaviors before learning of our gender identity. But this is projection, and demonstrates a lack of empathy and understanding as it does nothing to engage with what the subject in question is actually feeling at this moment in time.

Would it have been helpful for someone to tell me I was an egg before learning? I don’t think so. What would have been the most helpful is being taught exactly what being trans is and how people learn they are trans by sharing their feelings and experiences that they had prior to them figuring it out. This is what actually “broke” my egg. I knew trans people existed for a long time, but I didn’t understand that my feelings were trans feelings until I was able to hear other trans people discuss them.

So I do believe that it is unethical to tell people what their gender identity is, but I also believe it’s unethical not to share our experiences struggling with gender as much as possible so that others may better understand the feelings they may have. It’s what is so truly heartbreaking about the government censoring gender identity education in schools in the US.

And this time there will be zero investment in stopping it spreading when it starts killing people

They confiscated it, wouldn’t give it back and were threatening to arrest her. There are also reports of trans people that were renewing their passports by mail and told they wouldn’t be getting them back.

Shout out to https://bsky.app/profile/quest64official.bsky.social

Same bestie

This is how I feel about music

With enough time and money, passing is never unattainable. You just need a plan. It being comforting makes perfect sense.

It sounds like you’re hurting yourself by hiding your identity from others.

Start as soon as you possibly can to start neutralizing the effects of testosterone as soon as possible and to have your bones grow in a feminine manner before they fuse such as your hips.

There is some debate on starting with lower dosages or not and how that can affect transition. Every body is different. You will need to take a form of estrogen, this typically comes in tablets, patches, injections and gels.

You will also need something to block your body from producing or absorbing testosterone. There are a few types of drugs you can take for this. The most prescribed one in the US is spirinolactone. Some boards recommend waiting to start spiro and starting at a lower dose as there has been reports of it causing breast buds to fuse too early.

A medicine that you can start right away without having to wait and you can get from any doctor is finasteride. It can help restore your hairline and stunt any masculinizing effects you receive from DHT, a byproduct of testosterone. Once your testosterone is fully suppressed you can stop taking it as there won’t be any testosterone to convert into DHT.

Here is some light reading to help understand the process.
https://diyhrt.wiki/transfem
https://diyhrt.market/transfem-hrt-guide
https://transfemscience.org/
https://transcare.ucsf.edu/guidelines/feminizing-hormone-therapy

You may pass with HRT or you may not. It doesn’t hurt to have a plan to make yourself as comfortable in your own body as you can be. If that includes FFS then so be it, there is no shame in making a plan to get it. And who knows, while you wait for surgery you may even begin to pass as time goes on. My face has looked completely different every year that I’ve been on HRT.

There’s also no shame in identifying as whatever makes you feel the most comfortable and the most safe. It is completely understandable. Lord knows we all wish we could be so confident in ourselves no matter what, but we have to do what we can to survive.

I still boy mode outside of work and friends because I don’t feel safe being seen as trans by strangers and it hurts less when I am misgendered because at least I’m not trying.

My advice for now, try not to fixate on what about your face is causing you to not pass. In most cases it’s not any one part but how things fit together and in any case the FFS surgeon will know best. Also, please try your best not to let “not passing” stop you from living your life.

Really it’s just time. You’ve thought in that voice for years- it’s a force of habit. It’ll take time to change it, but you’re doing everything you should and one day - before you know it - your inner monologue will sound like you.

Friendly reminder the guardian is run by terfs
https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/17dpbf7/the_guardianobservers_transphobia_is_now_their/

Fuck yes I love the art so much

If y’all like Gabbi Tuft I highly recommend checking out Alana McLaughlin

Titan A.E. only got a 50% and it is incredible and still holds up!