I’m worried the baby thinks people can’t change
Glass house, white Ferrari, live for New Year’s Eve, sloppy steaks at Truffoni’s. Big, rare cut of meat with water dumped all over it, water splashing around the table? Makes the night *so* much more fun. After the club, go to Truffoni’s for sloppy steaks. They’d say, ‘No sloppy steaks,’ but they can’t stop you from ordering a steak and a glass of water! Before you knew it, we were dumping that water on those steaks. The waiters were coming to try and snatch 'em up; we had to eat as fast as we could. Oh, I miss those nights; I *was* a piece of shit though!
I mean, I feel like their opinions and political beliefs can change. As for their personality and character flaws, I’m not so sure honestly
Yep. I’ve changed.
They can for sure.
Only if they want to.
And that is a HUGE if. Most people after their formal education decide to stop learning. And learning is the most important form of change.
Depends.
It’s a good idea to change those periodically.
nope you’re predetermined to be exactly as you were when you were born
I have no doubt it can be done. I’ve seen something along these lines for myself. Many people have begun their life with destructive ideas only to realize what was wrong and shake that off themselves, which one might say is natural as the seekers of insight we are. I’d be lying to say this didn’t describe me in a few ways, having thought in a more generalized, unthinking way in the past. Given enough time, it’s hard to imagine that not all of us would become Uncle Iroh.
We are given a glimpse of this in history; we see the likes of Hirohito going from warlike to a pacifist, General Butt Naked converting from a genocidal warlord to a preacher, Dr. Seuss once being Japanophobic before making amends, the great Confucius himself becoming who he was after being disillusioned with his position of power, and if you are of my religious group, God himself.
I’m an old guy. I started my life as a right-wing Conservative Christian. I’m now. Both an atheist and an anarchist. So yes people change. My journey has been six decades long.
That’s a crazy journey. Would you say the values you held, when you were a christian, were bad? Or that your values changed?
I have espoused views in my life I’m not proud of, but I think the same can be said of anyone.
Part of my journey was a search for intellectual consistency. Their are people of faith who are able to do that, I am not one of them. When it comes to politics, there are two contemporary thinkers (Ken White and Radley Balko) who forced me to re-evaluate my beliefs.
I believe there are many Conservative thinkers who hold their positions in good faith. Sometimes they are even correct! I believe there are also many Liberal thinkers who hold their positions in good faith, sometimes they are right also.
So to answer your question, I don’t think my values were bad, some of my thinking about how to implement those values definitely was though.
As with most people we morph over time.
I guess that’s what I am kinda curious about. I think some christians have good values that fit into the chrsitian world view but then they are isolated by christianity and never expand those values. I don’t think they are inherently bad or anything they’ve just been so insular they’re afraid to grant the outsider the same consideration as the in group. I dunno.
People can change if they’re willing to put in the effort to do so.
Yes, have you never changed?
I have, in small ways. I think it’s less about changing but more about opening up though. I’m not sure my value system ever changed but it has been challenged again and again with new ideas and things I never knew to consider.
Some things, people cannot change, except by getting worse. Someone who is suffering from dementia, certain personality disorders, etc., may learn techniques to cope and even thrive, but there’s nothing that can restore lost brain function, or undo childhood developmental issues that fundamentally affect the brain.
If they can’t we’re definitely fucked so it’s better to assume yes.
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I have certainly changed over the years. The change can be attributed partially to growing as a person over the years, and partially to major, life-altering events.
