when I think of the word “fetish” I’m thinking about people who are into feet, bdsm, femdom, cuckolding or MDLB. Not someone who just finds X ethnicity more attractive on average than any other ethnicity. Nobody for example is going to say to a white man that he has a white girl fetish simply because he finds white women more attractive on average than any other ethnicity. Because it’s completely understandable that most people prefer to date with their own ethnicity. But the minute that white man finds a black women more attractive on average suddenly that’s fetishization. It’s completely ridiculous.
I think part of the problem is the use of terms that are so broad that it becomes racist.
Let’s say you are an american with irish roots. You are “white” but you are not the same “white” as an american with Finnish roots. If you were to say that you are attracted to black women, what does that mean? Does it mean you are attracted to dark skin? How dark? South sudan dark or namibia dark? Are you talking about facial features? Body shapes?
Point is, saying that you are attracted to black women is a sign that what you actually mean is that you have an idea in your head of what features “black” women have and then assuming that it is true for all black women, which is racist.