• SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 days ago

    “everyone’s punching up” ignores the influence of personality and compatibility though

    To me appearance isn’t that important (as long as it’s feminine), what is though, us how much I like their personality, and that’s not only subjective, but also something that can be worked on. Moreover, if you like someone’s personality, chances are they like yours too, because at that point a lot of it is about compatibility as well (if I like someone who likes DnD, chances are they do the same, right?)

    Humans are too much of social creatures for it to be a simple measure of “who’s hotter” evolutionary speaking

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      “everyone’s punching up” ignores the influence of personality and compatibility though

      I don’t intend to create a mathematical model of the whole of dating in a single post. Punching up isn’t just on looks, it’s on everything. Emotional, social, psychological, physical and familial baggage all count.

      There is, of course, room for compatibility. People need to find people who enjoy doing things together, but the masses out there who can’t find someone can’t all just be waiting on someone who likes to play certain types of games. Find a reasonably workable person that is willing to accept you, if you hit it off, they’ll come around to do the things you do to spend time with you.