I don’t have friends, but the people at the coffee drive-through have started recognizing me. Can’t wait to get apartments together with them soon.
“Third places” in this day and age, with this carbrained transportation and zoning policy?
Friends, How I Met Your Mother, Dear John, cheers; these places were either in very walkable cities, or their stories were structured so it would be a way-stop in someone’s commute or travels.
The diner in Seinfeld, the bar in Simpsons and Family Guy.
Nobody can afford that shit anymore. That was a 80/90s adult thing. That or a bar @.@ our parents really got the last of it.
These are all set in walkable cities, it makes sense to have a favorite cafe near where you all live.
I have a favourite cafe near where I live but I cant afford to go there every day 😭
100% though there are groups of retired folks that definitely do meet up there regularly like in these shows.
When I was much younger, my friends and I would meet up at the same coffee shop/bistro every day and hang out on the back patio smoking cigarettes, drinking coffee, and chatting for hours. That place is no longer in business, and everything is WAY too expensive now… but years later, some of that same group of people meet up damn near every day at a private beach shack for beers, grilling, and swimming.
Living the fucking life man, wow. I definitely had a hang like that in my younger years but all those people are grown and gone, myself included.
Through sheer luck, many of my friends are either single or DINKs, so we’ve got the free time to hang out. Doesn’t hurt that we live on a small island.
Does anyone have friends that see more than 2-3 times a year?
I cannot even financially support that. A beer costs between 5 and 8 euros. Having a few beers and some snacks for 2 hours is a bill of 60 euros. Imagine doing that for several hours every day. I can’t spend 100-150 euros every day.
It’s so much cheaper to just buy a couple 12-packs and hang out at someone’s place. Bonuses include - choosing what to put on the TV, not having conversations be interrupted by strangers, and having the ability to crash overnight if you don’t feel comfortable driving home afterward.
I’m not the most outgoing person, and bars/clubs tend to be too loud for my liking. I don’t think those places were made for people like me, so there’s little point in going there when hanging with friends on my back porch is so much cheaper.
Same. I see friends regularly, but almost always as living room chillings.
When I was younger, certainly before kids, yeah, we had a couple different restaurants or bars where we’d meet up fairly regularly, for either a couple beers or some food, or both, or more.
This thread highlights the reality of Lemmy, and how it’s representative of only a sliver of the population. The number of people saying “Friends?” is depressing.
Yo when I was in high school you could go to the diner and spend $4 on a sandwich and fries and hang out. Now it’s like $20 for the same shit
Of course. How else would we develop the exposition other people will need to understand our narrative?
No, because it would be exorbitantly expensive.
No. But in college, we had a pub we would go to for dinner on Wednesday every week with the same group of friends, with the occasional tag along. Does that count?
For those of who worked at certain restaurants, you might have experienced a dedicated group of 75+ friends and yes they do meet at the same place everyday. In fact when we were closed they’d camp outside in the parking lot in lawn chairs.
The exact same group of geriatrics… every single day. Honestly it was sad to see one missing and not come back because you knew why.
100%
Worked at a retirement place as a server. This to the next level. Doors open at 7 for breakfast. The line started at 630 same people. Same table. Same orders. We could pre set their specific flavored creamers.
When the lady who got half a grapefruit passed it felt empty to not have her 1 but then every time we had a extra grapefruit left it was like seeing her again.
Used to with friends who are no longer with us.
The folks I would do this with, hang out at a spot frequently, have either moved away or died.
It’s been very hard to get to that point again, however Cannabis communities, particularly in Amsterdam, have really been a help at socialising and making friends. I’ve made more friends there since last year than I have for several years prior.
Folks are always up for a coffee and a toke!Do friendships like that actually exist? Did TV set me up for disapointment?
It’s possible, but damn do they take a lot of work and time to keep going. Most just get busy in their daily lives, get stuck in a daily pattern and before you know it, 3 and 4 months have passed by… then it becomes years. Then you feel awkward to reach out because they haven’t done so either.
In my previous city we had a friend group that would get together and have a potluck and watch cartoons every week. To my knowledge it’s still going on after 10+ years.
Well, to be fair for the Gilmore Girls that was literally one of two places they could go… And Lorelai ended up boinking the owner… So ya.
