I read a comment recently explaining that a child’s nervous system cannot differentiate between pain or threat of pain inflicted due to discipline or pain or threat of pain inflicted due to abuse and honestly that changed something in my head. Like. It doesn’t matter if the kid knows they have done something wrong and understands that there’s a punishment as a result. The nervous system cannot tell the difference.
I was lucky to get both physical and verbal abuse from my family, so I’m just a grown up mess now.
I am glad to see the studies come out that validate these experiences on a more empirical level.
I read a comment recently explaining that a child’s nervous system cannot differentiate between pain or threat of pain inflicted due to discipline or pain or threat of pain inflicted due to abuse and honestly that changed something in my head. Like. It doesn’t matter if the kid knows they have done something wrong and understands that there’s a punishment as a result. The nervous system cannot tell the difference.