To be a little blunt here, someone who thinks using an LLM is equivalent to being in a relationship with a real person probably shouldn’t be in a relationship with a real person.

Do you think it’s a good idea to emotionally invest in a sycophantic noise machine? AI doesn’t push back on your bad ideas the way a human would. I think you’ll wind up in an extremely unhealthy place if you do this.

I think the voting ratio pretty well demonstrates one obvious hurdle: people don’t like it.

Even people who are happy with AI seem repulsed by the idea of it replacing human intimacy. So unless you have some real ride or die friend and family, you’ll have to risk judgment from them or keep it a secret

There’s also the fact that right now most AI bots are toadies by nature - meaning they will rarely disagree with you and will generally capitulate to your will. That would be off-putting for some, including myself.

They also (currently) don’t have great memory and will not always recall things that are important to you. No matter hpw any times you tell them.

Obviously, there are larger issues to consider, but if you’re already considering the leap then you may not necessarily be convinced by arguments about humanity and what’s natural.

This is ragebait lol

You may enjoy watching “Her”, if you haven’t already

I dont like AI but hating on it now may not bring you a solution so here is my advice (assuming you will use AI):

I dont think you should close the doors in case you meet someone fitting!
You can probably still use AI but better dont do a “this or that” but more a “this until that”

IF you have the resources i would advise to run it locally because of privacy, protecting your data against leaks and generally having more options to fine-tuning (+ its better for the environment)
BUT they are slower and/or have less complexity

Bullet point advice:

• leave room open for real people
• AI GFs arent real even if they say they ‘feel’ real and if you feel its real (your emotions are real and legit but the AI GF still is not)
• dont give them your real information especially in case its NOT run locally (like address, iban, credit card, name and more)
• better treat them like a daydream or a random RPer or professional porn or something (it can never be truly real)
• They should not impose restrictions on you (like who you meet and not, what you do with your time...)
• you should stop/pause if your life gets negatively affected
• tell (if you have one) a trusted person that you use an AI GF so they can see if it turns out good/bad to you and give feedback (dont lie to them about how you feel or they will only tell your lies back)
• try to not get addicted and be able to stop at almost any time the relationship if needed (like if you meet someone fitting)
• test if you can stop by making time frames (days to months) where you are without them to control that you can stop the AI usage if needed
• try to split the AI from other things like searching for information online so you can easily separate work from hobby from potential smut and also pause if needed

please take care of yourself and stay connected to the people around you

Edit: AI is (and was always) like cheating in tests (with notes from others), it will bring results but it wont bring the person further to their goal, maybe even hinder it but the person will definitely be happy to score a few points higher the first few tests

Hey, if you wanna give up on love for whatever reason, that’s your prerogative. You can have a “relationship” with Clippy all you want, whatever that means. It’s sad, but there are worse situations to be in.

All of the boomers and gen xers in here giving advice and clutching their pearls have no idea what the landscape is like these days. Do what you gotta man. You don’t need a romantic relationship to live a good life anyway.

Who’s AI?