• Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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    22 days ago

    OP’s first mistake was thinking they could find a picture of typical female bullying. Boy bullies may use their physical force, but most girl bullies use psychological force. They use words to tear into you, they manipulate people with lies about you, they create drama that drives friendships apart and socially isolates their target. There are no physical bruises to show for it, all the planning takes place inside their heads, and the closest thing to “evidence” is boiled down to “she said/she said.” If she’s got more friends to back up her lies (and she does, because she socially isolated you) she could easily turn the tables and accuse you of starting shit with her. And she will be believed. Because she’s done it before - character assassination is her specialty, and she’s targeted you enough that school admin prejudicially expects you to lie.

    Anyway, you’re probably not going to find a picture of that. Even if you do, you likely won’t recognize it as “bullying” because it’ll just look like girls talking.

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      Boy bullies may use their physical force, but most girl bullies use psychological force

      There is a huge percentage of boy-bullying that is also psychological.

      In fact, media is so terrible at portraying bullying that we still have made almost zero social progress against it, because the average bullying victim can’t identify that the dudes in their group who say twisted shit to them or talk about them behind their back are actually bullies until they get older and the insecurity and trauma is set-in.

      Physical bullying is common, but mental/emotional bullying among groups of teens is far more prevalent and goes completely unnoticed, and the digital/social-media age is making it even easier to hide entire worlds of abuse from parents.

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      Anyway, you’re probably not going to find a picture of that.

      When I search “female bullying” images on ddg mostly show this. I thought the second image captured it pretty well.

      One girl whispers into the ear of another girl who is laughing and looking at her phone. In the background a third girl looks sad.

      The fifth result does too.

      A girl looks sad in the foreground with two girls looking towards her and smiling, they are out of focus.

      This one really captures the “just looks like talking” aspect you mention because it doesn’t show the victim looking dramatically sad nor the bullies looking especially excited.

      A girl reads a book as another duo of girls look at her disdainfully.

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      I’ve seen girls trying “boy bullying”.

      On boys.

      Mostly ends quickly, and girl loses twice (got hit and dissapointed teachers).

      Boys have “bouys will be boys” acting as a shield xD

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        22 days ago

        Polish photographer i seem to remember. Used these models in several pictures. Never outright erotica, but certainly having that vibe

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        22 days ago

        Me: Showing off my collection of women holding other women’s hair and forcing them to drink milk WHAT DO YOU MEAN KINK RELATED!?

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    22 days ago

    Sooo if I put on 5 under shirts 4 hot chicks will press me against their breasts and softly strangle me? I knew I did it wrong in high school

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      21 days ago

      Why did I stop at only 4 shirts?!

      I knew something was wrong but to be so close to greatness and fail…

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      It looks like they are about to tear each others clothes off in a glorious 10 minute single take. You think she’s got 5 shirts on? Those are just the ones you can see now!

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      22 days ago

      Bullying can be a fetish, so yeah, I can see why it would feel like that. It’s amazing what can be fun when you do it in a safe space with consent and safe words amongst trusted people.

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      22 days ago

      They look 30, I think that’s just assault.

      every physical bullying is an assault, the age is really not relevant to determine that.

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      Thanks for this, they were very successful with their censoring, and I had no idea what they were trying to say.

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    22 days ago

    something between p<insert grey smut here>rn and baroque

    The world is beyond fucked.