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Jon Reremy

Don’t really do new year resolutions but I am doing dry January which is going fine, and February is in sight!

If you’re American, you can’t do better than The Elements of Style.

People using ‘yourself’ and ‘myself’ instead of ‘you’ and ‘me’ when trying to sound formal or posh. You don’t sound formal or posh, you sound ill-educated.

Cookware - cast iron skillets, enamelled cast. iron Dutch ovens, stainless steel saucepans.

Chef knives.

Leather wallet, briefcase, overnight bag and a couple of belts all made by Saddleback Leather - their tagline is “They’ll fight over it when you’re dead”.

You have the same problem as a friend of mine who struggles with both her parents.

Your idea of who he is doesn’t match the reality of who he is. This leads to him constantly disappointing you because he doesn’t behave the way you hope he will.

I think the first step to moving forward (in whatever way that might be) is to adjust your idea of who he is until it more closely matches reality. From what you’ve written, he doesn’t treat you as an adult or an equal. He doesn’t care about your boundaries (because he doesn’t consider you an adult or equal). He doesn’t care to be kind and nurturing. He doesn’t care about your feelings.

Once you can accept who he actually is you can make an informed decision about whether you want to include him in your life.

Lastly, your fear about him using his wealth to control you absolutely smacks of an abusive relationship. We don’t try and control those we love.

Nice. In that case I shall smirch him to the end, I shall smirch him on the seas and oceans, I shall smirch him with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, I shall smirch him on the beaches, I shall smirch him on the landing grounds, I shall smirch him in the fields and in the streets, I shall smirch him in the hills; I shall never unsmirch!

I’m not scared. I’m a besmirching machine. He’ll know he’s been besmirched when I lay down some righteous besmirch upon him!

Vim. Every computer I’ve owned since the early 1990s has had some version of Vi on it.