So sorry to hear this, though, I have to commend your apparent calm and mesured approach you had to face them head on.

Welcome to the dark side

We have cookies, makeup classes, and guillotine sharpening services. Enjoy! 💜

Jokes on you, No one in their right mind would ever give me a bank loan! Deadname or nah!

Regardless of style, I can promise you that you will not regret buying titanium jewelry, the real stuff(this is jκyust one description on how).

Its far less likely to cause you issues, and can be anodized a variety of colors if you prefer a less traditional color. Even with the nicest stone, you’d still be better going with a fake stone but real titanium.

If you ever decide to have wider gauge earrings, tempered glass is also as non-reactive as it comes. Any other materials should be assessed from a place of already having jewelry your body is good with, rather than buying your next size/replacing lost ones.

For me, there wasn’t much available in the vein of live action media that I found to be affirming. I didn’t care for RuPaul before hearing about his less than ideal thoughts of our community, so there isn’t much.

I would say though, there is so much trans-esq/directly trans storylines to be found among Anime of all genres. I also found the dark(er) than real life focus that is most media of today to be a real negative part of my content. Once I stopped consuming dark fictional content, combined with limiting my video-based news, I found that I had sooooo much more room to both examine/appreciate/dream about a positive future for myself, especially my tolerance to withstand dysphoria.

One anime I really found myself relating to almost all of the characters in some aspect, including the very clearl gender-rebel or sorts, was Netflix’s The Seven Deadly Sins (the show). If you like fun fantasy with the right amount of camp and silly tropes, Its a great watch.

She looks ready to riot!

(this is good)

I think its a FB group, which I only just now have started trying to use again, so I can’t say I know much about them.

I’ll ask my partner if I’m right and get a link for you.

Note about the police:

This should really be taken with the understanding that I am a white (trans)woman, who is sober, quiet, who is well practiced in the masking needed to make these types of interactions survivable. I am acutely aware that I am very privileged to have not been treated in the way POC’s have and still are. I feel like POC’s are likely to be safe in MN, but I’m not qualified to really speak anything beyond that.

In total, I would guess I have had ~20-25 interactions with police over the last 1.5years. All but 2 of them were almost identical: Sleeping while parked legally overnight, and lasting all of 3 mins to knock on my covered window, do a quick ID check, and make sure im not drunk / OD’d

The other 2 were fortunately just as uneventful.

Stay safe out there, no matter where you come from, and remember to stick together when you can. 💜

I’ve posted a fair handful of comments about the details leading to my current situation, as well as plenty of details about life since, on various posts elsewhere on lemmy. I’m going to avoid wasting time that I already spent writting what was a better comment than I have the energy to do rn. If you have a question, i’ll be sure to respond, and especially quick to other transpeople who have questions and are considering seeking safety here.

Also, feel free to DM me if you have concerns you’d prefer to not have in comments.

Stay safe out there, you’re worth it!