I don’t really appreciate you publishing part of a message I sent you in private. Also, you’re misrepresenting my arguments and intentions. I shared my experience because your post implies that people like me don’t exist or matter. I never denied the harm it can cause if someone acts like they know more about someone’s identity than they do. Which is ironic because in your comment you’re implying you know more about my trans journey than I do.
I have several objections towards the way the egg directive is used and worded, maybe someday I’ll write them out completely.
Mostly has to do with the fact the harm it’s supposed to prevent can also be prevented by just following the human decency of not assuming you know someones identity better than they do. Plus the fact that the way the directive is brought up often scares trans people out of sharing when they relate with something. And then there’s the fact that in this cisnormative world everyone is constantly assumed to be cis which is never called out the same way as when someone assumes a person is trans.
NB people can identify as trans. Usually NB people who go through any type of medical transition identify as trans. It’s quite common.
I think internal characteristics (I’m not a fan of calling it symptoms because it implies that being trans is a disease) tell a broader story of the trans experience. Also as an adult I can say that I barely remember my behaviour as a child so I don’t relate to almost any items on that list. Lastly I don’t like gatekeeping being trans and don’t care who does and doesn’t consider themselves trans, I just made that comment for other people who might’ve read your post and assumed it was a good list for trans self discovery (I really believe it isn’t)
That list specifically is made for parents to see if their child might be trans. For self identification I think there are much better resources out there.
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It doesn’t because the child will carry the trauma with her into adulthood. Literally just ask the people who’ve been through those kinds of relationships on the victim side and you’ll know that this is a horrible situation.
That’s the case for parents of a victim. The son in this case is the perpetrator and as a parent op can do something, which is denouncing the relationship. Protecting the 16 yr old is more important that the relationship between the perpetrator and his parent.
It’s gross because the only reason a 29 yr old adult would have a relationship ship with a 16 yr old is because the 16 yr old is easy to manipulate. A 29 yr old and a 16 yr old have no life experiences in common, the whole relationship relies on the inequal power dynamic. The fact that he chose to have a relationship with a 16 yr old is already proof that he’s taking advantage because any sensible adult that cares about the wellbeing of the 16 yr old would never do that.
That’s gross and as a parent you have the responsibility to tell him it’s gross. Don’t normalise this relationship.
Blahaj is truly the best partner in gender terrorism
As others said, labels don’t make you interesting, being interesting does. Experiment with your identity on- and offline (as in your style, your pronouns, learned behaviours or otherwise). Also try to read/listen/watch more about trans experiences to learn how your feelings relate to trans people and why it’s harmful to appropriate trans culture. Wishing you had a penis can be considered queer and it’s definitely a feeling I’d explore more. Your statements do sound similar to what I used to say about myself before I realised I was transmasc.