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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • Some of their questions are…interesting, but I think the important thing to keep in mind here is that they’re making an explicit effort to interact with you in the way you prefer, and it is probably be worth pointing out the comments that make you uncomfortable with them directly. They clearly want to make the effort to make you comfortable, so being direct with them would most likely be appreciated by them.

    In regards to “is this normal?”, I will say that, as a cis person, the line between “don’t stereotype based on gender” and respecting gender identity can be quite murky and it can feel precarious to assume how someone wants to be treated after or during their transition. Everyone will have different expectations and wishes, so having discussions like this, though blunt and likely awkward, will hopefully lead to a better relationship overall.

    It does sound like this friend cares about you, so I hope you’re both able to address this constructively.