TIL posting/having conversations about a characteristic of one country implies that you believe that no other countries have that same characteristic.

While I’m sure the fact that the dominance of US news and culture on the internet is probably really frustrating for non-Americans, it’s pretty natural for Americans (or anyone, really) to talk about our own country and experiences… especially while having to grapple with how things have been escalating here. You’re certainly free to share your own experiences.

it is still much more difficult for people of color to become professionally successful than it is for white people. That’s a fact. There are still laws in place (and not nearly enough protections), which disproportionately harm POC.

Do they not deserve to be just as successful? To follow their dreams? To be able to support themselves and their families?

Knowing this, why wouldn’t you seek out black-owned business to help counter systemic racism? Those in power in the US, at least, aren’t going to do it. This is by their design.

I care about the well-being of everyone (well, minus the 1% and Nazis), but those who continue to be harmed by a system—that I directly benefit from as a white person—simply require more attention if we’re ever going to have an equitable society.

I think a lot of her regret is based on our relationship now and how she wishes it could be.

Yeahhh, my mother as well. But you’re right. It helps no one to dwell on the past. Thank you for your advice.

Yeah it’s pretty ridiculous lol. And I guess she learned about the symptoms for adults specifically?

Oh, for sure. I was pleasantly surprised, but I also know my parents are by no means the worst parents in the world (nor, I would argue, are they bad parents).

I really do appreciate her acknowledgement, and the ways in which they were good parents. It’s just frustrating that it took this long.

Oh, my father has a pretty severe case of bipolar disorder, so that definitely doesn’t help. I’d be surprised if my mom has ADHD, but she for sure has a lot of anxiety at the very least

Thank you. I have forgiven her, in a sense. I know she did her best, and they were good parents in other ways, but she’s sometimes still dismissive, even today. I know it’s not on purpose or anything, but it makes me not want to speak to them.

They’re both baby boomers who ignorant almost across the board, with the emotional intelligence of middle schoolers. I doubt talking to them about would accomplish anything other than upsetting everyone involved, but I do appreciate her regret.

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can’t have short hair at one of my jobs

I’m really curious about what kind of job that could be lol

Do you use a diffuser?