On the topic of true trans being in childhood, I’m just figuring it out in my 30s. I do have memories of the feelings all the way back to when I was 4 or 5, which gives me relief, but also, who cares?
Even if someone’s gender identity changes when they are older, who cares if they transition? Who cares if they do it just because they think they’ll like it? Who cares if they do it just to try it out? Also, with non-binary folk and gender nonconforming folk coming out, it suddenly truly doesn’t matter if someone is “real” anymore. Our current understanding and categorizations just don’t cut it anymore.
I would have loved being able to grow up in this generation and having the chance to explore my gender. To say that kids don’t know or can’t tell is such hogwash – my brain has only ever pushed me in one direction on this topic and everything else has been conscious effort to fit into the box I was told to. Now, in transition, I’m finding people just want me to jump into the other box. Gender is much more complex than the binary makes it out to be and I think a lot of anti trans sentiment is over the fact that trans people make it clear that gender is very important and way more complex than society writ large makes it out to be.
On the topic of true trans being in childhood, I’m just figuring it out in my 30s. I do have memories of the feelings all the way back to when I was 4 or 5, which gives me relief, but also, who cares?
Even if someone’s gender identity changes when they are older, who cares if they transition? Who cares if they do it just because they think they’ll like it? Who cares if they do it just to try it out? Also, with non-binary folk and gender nonconforming folk coming out, it suddenly truly doesn’t matter if someone is “real” anymore. Our current understanding and categorizations just don’t cut it anymore.
I would have loved being able to grow up in this generation and having the chance to explore my gender. To say that kids don’t know or can’t tell is such hogwash – my brain has only ever pushed me in one direction on this topic and everything else has been conscious effort to fit into the box I was told to. Now, in transition, I’m finding people just want me to jump into the other box. Gender is much more complex than the binary makes it out to be and I think a lot of anti trans sentiment is over the fact that trans people make it clear that gender is very important and way more complex than society writ large makes it out to be.
Sorry for the rambling thoughts!