I am not joking when I say that I thinked for hours about how do people find each other in 2025.
Currently, the world is in very weird state. People online are either using social video platforms or they are reading news or lurking in online forums in it’s different shapes and forms.
Most chat platforms that I know had shut down and most alt social platforms are almost dead. Even Hackernews had started to see a lower amount of comments compared to previous years.
I want a serious answer, how should I find people online to talk to about anything really other than politics?
Love yourself and be content in being alone, get to know the real you. When you do that, you will find the right people. It will be instinctual.
Hey people have dated and married over gaming chats before. I knew someone in college he met his then about to engage fiance. I lost contact after graduation though
Check out https://slowly.app/ - its a penpall service that simulates snail mail which makes for great connections! You can get a random pall or choose one explicitly and the community there is really wholesome.
I meet tons of people on Discord.
I posted on lemmy if anyone wanted to play games with me. Someone answered and we talk everyday since then, on most days we spend hours on video calls. Just try posting on whatever you use, you might find people you like.
Seriously though the only places I’ve seen any kind of thriving community are invite-only private torrent tracker sites.
I have an IRL friend who always goes like "oh, sorry, its invite-only torrent (￣y▽,￣)╭ "
That’s lame, you’re only supposed to be inviting people you really know IRL anyway… Weak excuse from your friend, if you’re willing to seed.
You really want online? I guess playing games, discord, vrchat.
My suggestion, do stuff IRL
Play on small game servers at the same time every day. Eventually youll start seeing the regulars and then its just a matter or trying to break into the friend group.
Outside of that you could try discord but its like wading through a sea of shit. If youre over 25 it will be very hard to find a group that doesnt eventually end up filled with kids or everyone has gotten on with their lives.
Videogames.
Whatever you do, steer clear of meetup.com - all of their social activities on there now are scientologists thinly veiling their seminars as get-togethers.
How does that even work lol
“What do you guys wanna do? Actually I know, let’s check out this building” “no you should really check out this building” “get in the fucking building”
“Guys I wanna leave”
“Okay but $50 and we will call your phone for eternity”
Here’s an example one: https://www.meetup.com/101-dating-relationships/events/307612236/
Meeting people is much possible in the real world.
I don’t have an answer about online methods… I went through the phase of how to meet people as well, and eventually decided to join / try out some group activities. I did some rookie dragon boating, table tennis, stand up paddle, and eventually met my forever spouse as she taught me scuba diving. PS: other than the scuba diving, those were all free activities for beginners. Good luck
A couple years ago I had my discord nametag as my Mario Kart Wii nickname, zheg#someNumbers, random people added me and then talked with them while playing. Those were good ol’ days.
I hear Lemmy is pretty good as a sort of forum, maybe you’ve heard of it?
But more seriously, I’ve found that social media platforms (even the fediverse ones) tend to limit connections to surface-level. I personally wouldn’t rely on them to find people to talk to. But if you’re looking for communities who share similar interests, it’s very good at that. If you’re looking for individuals, the next best thing is sliding into someone’s DMs to have a more focused one-on-one conversation. I’d recommend against doing that without some other interaction first (it looks scammy).
In case you want to chat, my DMs are open.
They don’t.
If you want to talk to real people you’ve got to go out in the real world.
Volunteer for something. Animal shelters and community theaters always need extra hands.
