• varden@lemmy.world
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      • Twink - a thin, mostly bodyhairless gay man
      • Twunk - a muscly, mostly bodyhairless gay man
      • Bear - a hairy, thicker gay man
      • Otter - a thinner but still hairy gay man
      • J/O - jerk off
      • Frot - touching two penises together, usually while j/o with each other
      • Top - the person who is topping is the person penetrating
      • Bottom - same but is instead the person being penetrated
      • Verse - likes being both top and bottom
      • Side - I’m less familiar with this one but given the quotes and context I’m assuming this is not a top or a bottom or a verse, but instead is someone less interested in penetration and more interested in body contact and j/o together. *
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        Side just means no penetration. Usually it means ok with oral, manual and frotting. You can indicate both (vers, side ok) to indicate you don’t mind someone who isn’t into penetration.

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        I think the first 2 or 4 have heavy gay culture connotations, but can be adapted to mean any man.

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    Jokes on him! >50% of guys on there do not bother to read the profile. Instead, their first message is of their junk…followed by three more pics of aforementioned junk and an aggressive opening message. It’s a great time!

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      I thought most of Grindr was more or less that expectation. Hey, you’re hot, and if you think I’m hot too, let’s meet up tonight. Here’s a sample.

      Something like that.

      I’m guessing I’m at least partly wrong?

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        You’re totally right.

        What I mean is that there are many, many, guys on there that do not even attempt to have a normal conversation. There is no “hey” or “how’s it going?” Just 1-4 unsolicited pics of their junk followed by some creepy message like “show daddy your…”

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            Women would certainly consider it to be, but the gay community gets to decide their own norms (not laws) and if that behavior is considered acceptable then it flies, otherwise gays can have their own #metoo and fix it.

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        This tracks for how a lot of people use the app, but depending on where you are you can also have some fairly normal (for a dating site) conversations with people as well. I spent a couple months on Grindr despite not being interested in hookups, since it’s a decent way to meet other trans folk in my area. My inbox was mostly dick pics but I also met some amazing people I’m still with several years later!

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        It depends. You get all sorts. There very much is a “right now” segment of the population.

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    Wait, is his geographic range three different countries? He would travel internationally for no sex romantic cuddles?

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    Let’s hope someone will encounter a girl on Tinder that uses Linux. The more in common, the better.