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  • renegadesporkA
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    14 hours ago

    Meanwhile I keep a spreadsheet of all their names, relations, jobs, etc so I don’t forget when I talk to them… <_<

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    6 days ago

    Her neighbor is going to see this and be like “oh It looks like “judgemental bitch” made a meme.”

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    6 days ago

    This post is a great example of why we lost America. And what is spreading across the world right now.

    Hold a goddamn yard sale and talk to your neighbors people, get to know them, PRETEND you care, at least enough so you can exchange phone numbers and watch each other’s places when you take trips or recognize each others lost dogs.

    I promise, it not only gets easier, it becomes a source of pride and comfort knowing the people around you. We have spurned community because it’s more tempting to hide inside and feel miserable and lonely. Losing community was how we lost civics and representation and basic human empathy.

    “whaa but my neighbors are all assholes”

    I don’t care. You should still know their names.

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      6 days ago

      Speak for yourself. I am not hiding inside so I can be miserable and lonely; I just find social interactions to be energy draining, so I need a lot of time in solitude to recharge.

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        Me too but it didn’t stop me from actually working on that and viewing it as what it is, not an identity quirk but an obstacle towards progress for myself and my community.

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            6 days ago

            “I don’t know how this helps me!” said the karate student doing pushups. “I came here to learn how to not get hurt, what good does hurting myself this way accomplish?”

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              “Oww! Oww! Oww! My broken arm still hurts!”

              “Stop whining and keep doing those pushups, and you’ll eventually get strong enough that those bones will knit themselves!”

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                This is more like my son telling me his legs hurt all the time, but he just got back from running around like a maniac, and he’s about to go run around like a maniac. And I’m not even suggesting the pain isn’t real, but sometimes you gotta push through.

                And to bring it back to the example at hand, developing a community is hugely important. I know all of my neighbors and we all hang out and know each other. Half the time, I don’t want to, but sometimes I just do it. Sometimes it’s not great, but sometimes it is. But when we need a hand, I have a pool of people to pick from, and I know I’m in their pool.

                Dehumanizing the morons on the internet forum you frequent is bad, but dehumanizing your neighbors is really bad. The door swings both ways, community is important. Make an effort. I’m sorry it’s hard.

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                  6 days ago

                  Make an effort. I’m sorry it’s hard.

                  Is this the kind of thing that you also say to the people in your neighborhood when trying to build a community, and if so, how do people usually respond to it?

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                6 days ago

                I just find social interactions to be energy draining

                My broken arm

                How are these equitable? How is “feeling drained” the same as having a handicap or being physically broken? I don’t actually want an answer, I don’t really care, you’re not going to do my community any good if you feel forced to do something you don’t see the benefit from, but it’s worth remembering that submerging in comfort now usually has a pretty steep cost later. Whether it’s not exercising your body because it hurts, or not exercising your emotional intelligence because it’s uncomfortable or draining.

                This epidemic of de-socialization is artificial, and should be pushed back on by everyone who cares about being a strong, healthy adult in a strong community. It’s very basic stuff that got us through ice-ages, mass extinctions, depressions and violent times of the past.

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                  Funny how you go on and on about the importance of connecting with the people around you, but then when someone shows up who is different from you and talks about how they are different, you stop trying to connect and turn incredibly hostile instead.

                  So much for empathy.

  • SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca
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    6 days ago

    Guy obviously having an affair, wine mom, right wing boomer #42, right wing boomer #43…

    I know the names of all their dogs.

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    We use

    “Shit neighbours” “The ones with the baby” “Remember, where the British couple lived before”

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    We remember the names of their dogs, and use those.

    So it’s “Rex’s Mum” and “Fido’s sister”

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    5 days ago

    I have killed a bottle of tequila with my neighbor and still don’t know his name. Labels are like, just suggestions anyway man.

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    I don’t even know my neighbors enough to assign them labels like that. I just like keeping to myself.

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    I like the “quotes” sometimes, but this trend of screenshots of people looking around distracts me.

    …I mean, at least look towards where the quote is gonna be.

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    I have

    Johnny Derp - looks like as if Depp was a recovering meth-head

    Thicc Ass - the girl that always lets her poodle out in the back yard to shit

    Karen - close enough to her real name but sure acts like it

    London bros - they are hicks with no etiquette of living in a community. Also they are actually from Guelph, I think…

    Frenchman - he’s actually from France and works at a Fromagerie

    The Thief - old dude who picks the berries and tomatoes in the alley

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      This is me too. All my neighbors names are “Sunny’s Mom” or “Legolas and Gimli’s Dad”

      Also, Gimli is a Corgi and I love their owners so much for this.

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        Also, Gimli is a Corgi and I love their owners so much for this.

        We all love their owners, now. That is delightful.

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      7 days ago

      I have helped my neighbor across the halls kid with his gaming PC.

      Couldn’t tell ya her name, but the dog below me with a heart problem is named Sophie, the neighbors down the hall have cats named Mink and Stink, and a few buildings down there’s a lady with two huskies one named Pogs and the other Skips (Skips has 3 legs)

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    One of my neighbors is Lucrezia and she offered to spell it for me and I was like “It’s cool, I got this, everyone knows the Borgias…”

    I couldn’t tell if she was impressed or horrified.