Nice. Software developer, gamer, occasionally 3d printing, coffee lover.

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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • I mean there was no party for his. Also only like 40 people. His soon to be wife convinced him to use the money he’d saved for the wedding on a down payment for a house.

    My sister had a wedding at the start of June and it went surprisingly well. The only aspect they skimped on was not hiring a videographer, so I took that role. Despite having a job to do and being nearly rained out of a outdoor wedding, the stars aligned. It went well. I think it was definitely cathartic to me after the first immediate family wedding. My other sister had one in March but that was an elopement and it was miserable. Outdoor ceremony in 40 degree bone chilling weather.


  • Anything immediate family is pretty much competing for worst ranking, simply because of how much extra effort it is.

    Out of 6 siblings, 3 have gotten married. Worst was the first, my brother. I was a groomsman - 1 out of 7, there a were 7 bridesmaids as well. A huge wedding party. Photos took -forever- and happened before the ceremony. It wasn’t too hot, but another groomsman (my other brother) ended up fainting (locked knees). We recovered from that. Later on, about an hour into a hour and a half ceremony (ridiculously long speeches) another faints. We’re all suffering because we’re standing for the entire ceremony.

    Then it’s finally over, but like any good wedding they had to sacrifice on one aspect. - they hired catering from a friend of a friend, and the caterer’s crew were a no show (apparently they didn’t check the address when they agreed and when they checked and saw it was a 2 hour drive they just didn’t show up). So we all stepped up to help.

    There was other shit too but despite outwardly going well that wedding gave me trauma.

    Best would be my close friend’s wedding. Just a ceremony and photos. Indoors as well. Easy.








  • Not me, but my parents, though I discovered it during a visit.

    Bats. They had a bat infestation. This was up at the highest point of the house in the loft, they were remodeling and left the walls open - a hole to the outside let one in, and I guess a bunch decided it was a nice place to hang out. There were dozens.

    As for dealing with it - bats are endangered, so you can’t exterminate them. If I remember correctly the total spend was just over 10 grand. This also included installing multiple permanent one way doors so if any bats manage to get in again, they have multiple ways to get out.





  • I hate Comcast/Xfinity with such a passion I tell myself if I had the same hatred for a person I’d be in jail for murder.

    Not only did they impose their “trial data caps” in my area and charge me out the ass for going over 2TB a month, I acceded once to being upsold and was told it was completely reversible within a month. After realizing the sales shithead lied to me about the features, I called to revert. Guess what? They couldn’t. It wasn’t something they could do. Fortunately I recorded all my calls, but even with that it took me more than 30 hours of phone and chat time to get it fixed, and the agent who finally helped me had to setup a recurring account credit to fix it. Absolutely horrid. She basically clarified, without saying it outright, that the sales shithead lied to my face because they’re practically encouraged to.

    Long story short my home purchase decision was influenced greatly by those shitheads not being in the area, and just seeing an ad makes me want to vandalize it. It’s the only thing I hate with this much passion.






  • What you describe - that feeling when you think of doing those things, my personal experience has me classify it as overthinking becomes getting overwhelmed. And once I’m overwhelmed, I want to escape.

    Keeping in mind coping mechanisms aren’t one size fits all, the coping mechanism that helped me is to write out the problem step by step. This forces me to think slower, and helps me get out of that recursion of thinking about the same things.

    I’ve also found some success in the age of AI LLMs asking one to break it down as well.

    An example would be the dentist. First I need to find one, I need to look at reviews, I need to make sure they accept my insurance, I need to make sure they’re reasonably close by. Alright, I compile a list of a few options, now the next part is the hard part: I have to actually call to get scheduled. But once I have it scheduled, my social anxiety is superceded by my desire to just get it over with. Sure I may feel that anxiety once I get close to the appointment, but I can cope with that - the real trick is by breaking down the process I didn’t get overwhelmed as quick, and if I did I had notes to come back to.


  • I used to have a fair bit of imposter syndrome but now that I’ve been working with a proper team I’ve come too accept I have an aptitude for code and logic in general, alongside a fairly good abstract memory.

    I’m not the best by any stretch of the imagination, but I’m a little more competent than the average software engineer, enough that it gets noticed.

    I also got lucky and scored a job at 17 in the field (with no nepotism involved), not a great one but enough to look good on my resume, and have been working in the industry for just over a decade with no college.