Thank you! I’ll be watching with great interest! Lots of potential :)

A couple of questions. If I was trying to keep a consistent workspace to build a community around, would it be persistent after the host logs off, and are their tools to protect it from trolls etc who discover it a workspace?

I had penile inversion 7 years ago.

but is there a hood that they expand out of, and what is the feeling like just in general and when touched?

I have a clitoral hood. Obviously, I can’t compare the experience to a cis experience, but what I can say is that my clitoris is far more sensitive than it was before bottom surgery. I put that down to it being under a hood and lubricated now (I was circumcised previously). Of note though, I had basically no sensitivity at all there for the first couple of months after surgery, as they nerves recovered

Do any methods apart from ppt and the other one where they put anal tissue in have lube occur naturally? If so how does this occur?

Yes, I lubricate. I’m not sure what my surgeon did exactly, but I lubricate. I don’t believe that is true of all penile inversion though, so it’s worth researching/questioning your specific surgeon and their previous patients.

Does the inside of any of the methods feel like endogynous vaginas over time or does it feel like flat skin or whatever no matter how much time there has been?

Similar, but not the same? Texture wise, very similar, but the main difference is that my vaginal walls are less flexible and stretchy

One thing I will add though. I ended up having complications, and scarring, so I lost a lot of my depth. But even so, for me, it’s still so much better than what I had before! 10/10 would do again

Thanks! That sounds like something I need to look at

I use a AW34234DWF on plasma in HDR mode. I love it. It’s worth it. I do a lot of photo work with it. Mostly I don’t run games in HDR though, because it involves gamescope, which is more hassle than it’s worth for me

What type of surgery? Are you travelling to another country?

My kid got diagnosed, and then it became impossible to deny that I had it too

It’s on my list to try!

And that’s why it’s good that it’s an option! I just don’t want it to become the only option

10/10 this is the future of Linux.

I hope it’s a future of Linux, not the future. I’m not a fan of atomic distros, mostly because if their reliance on flatpak and the like

You run it and then reboot. If that doesn’t fix it, then it didn’t fix it :\

Try enable-linger. As I understand it, the issue is related to the way Sway handles Wayland sockets, and enable-linger kicks things off before Sway is involved.

Can you compare groups output under both sessions?

Specifically, if you don’t show membership of sudo in your Sway session, try this

loginctl enable-linger lazarus

However, this is c/lemmybewholesome

You make a good point. I’ve deleted my comment. I was out of line bringing it to this community. My bad.

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The first time it happened to me, was 5 or 6 years ago now, before the climate turned as hostile as it is now. I work for a large organisation, and the people I work with all know I’m trans because I’m open about it, but there are many folk who I don’t work directly with, who didn’t know about my transition, because despite being open about being trans, we simply don’t encounter each other often.

In any case, I just made it clear that I remembered him, and mentioned the project we had worked together on a few years before the encounter. Told him that I was still working in the same area with the same folks. I could see him trying to work out who I was. I didn’t lie, but I didn’t out myself. I just let him struggle to remember me.

I have no idea if he ever did work it out, because I haven’t encountered him again since.

Is it federated/does it have social elements?

CachyOS, because I wanted something arch based due to the archi wiki and rolling releases.

My media boxes run Ubuntu, but that will change when they get rebuilt/replaced at some point, most likely to Debian

For what it’s worth, “Do I want to do her or do I want to be her?” is a whole thing with cis lesbians…

But maybe this is less rational and more psychological, maybe it’s just more satisfying to pass in front of a transphobe, maybe it’s more emotionally validating if the person who thinks the world is crazy for letting men into women’s restrooms sees that “man” is a woman.

Whatever you’re looking for here, you won’t get it. If a transphobe doesn’t read you as trans, you don’t get a reaction from them. If they do identity you as trans later on, or if you out yourself to them, they won’t question their beliefs, they won’t second guess themselves, they won’t give you more legitimacy. They don’t care about your appearance. They care that you’re trans, and all of the bigoted stuff that they attach to that. The only difference that cis passing makes with transphobes is that it gives you a break from the directly targeted hate they bring.

The only way to buy legitimacy in the eyes of transphobes is to turn the transphobia on yourself and your community. And even that’s not legitimacy, it doesn’t get you off their hate list, just lower down on it.

In my experience, being around folks who talk transphobia who don’t realise I’m trans just leaves me feeling dirty.

You can change minds, but not of people deep down the rabbit hole. And the folk who aren’t so far down get changed by your humanity, and by the realisation that they are hurting people who don’t deserve it. And you can only achieve that if they know that you’re trans, and care that their words hurt.

Passing culture is awful. The desire to avoid targeted transphobia makes sense, but the sense of extra validity, of extra legitimacy we are taught to attach to being able to pass as cis is poison. It doesn’t lead to anything positive. It takes time to reframe how you see chasing cis passing, and to undo the baggage that we as a community attach to it. It’s ok to feel relief at not being harassed, and it’s ok to deal with dysphoria if that’s what you need to do. However, the idea that the opinions of transphobes (or anyone else) on your appearance is connected to your validity is something you can only benefit from by challenging.