Some of us were doing infrastructure as code back when they still called us “Linux admins” and we were doing “gitops” with Subversion and Puppet. My title has changed a lot since the old days but some of the “new hotness” was around in the old days with different names. Fuck, look at LPARs.
Two slices of toast, one with butter one with grape jelly. Slice a boiled egg, put the egg slices on the toast, give it a little bit of salt, complete assembly and boom, my breakfast egg sandwich.
It’s really good and I don’t understand why people are so weirded out by it. Eating a boiled egg and some toast with butter and jelly is fine for breakfast, but! Put them together as a sandwich and now I’m the weirdo.
Hate to put it this way but my read is in ten years you and that kid are going to be pretty close and I kind of doubt you’ll still be with your SO.
Kind-of-not-caring-that-much is a pretty normal dad thing like others have stated. You show up, you be yourself, you do what you gotta do, there’s no single “clouds open up and your entire brain floods with dopamine and seratonin while angels sing YOU’RE A DAD YOU’RE A DAD” moment.
But the fact that you can just be kind of normal turns out the be one of the things your kid likes about you. They start following you around or spending time with you to get some time away from Mom. They bring you little problems and you get to teach them things about the world.
And then you blink and they’re a teenager and suddenly they’re too cool to say “I love you Daddy” anymore and you aren’t prepared for how much that hurts.
So anyway that’s how it happens. Btw for what it’s worth, I don’t think it was just tiktok brainrot that gave your SO rose colored glasses about parenthood: evolutionary biology has its own ways to compel women to want to have babies just like it has its own ways to compel men to go along with it. That’s… why we’re all here.