Speak less and what you do say might resonate more.
An accidental observation on my part. Nothing like that old selective mutism.
Not just you! But it wasn’t until I saw a quote from John Wayne that it registered for me…
Talk low, talk slow and don’t say too much"
Mine is that if you’ve been cold all day, go take a hot shower But maybe a minute before you’re about to step out, turn the water cold and step in for at least thirty seconds. Then, when you turn off the water and open the curtains, it doesn’t feel cold. Everything feels warm relative to your skin.
Thirty seconds of suffering is worth the cozy warmth of stepping out of the shower. But my friends all think I’m insane for even suggesting that. It’s a bit controversial.
The body easily confuses temperature responses, it is the reason people dying of hypothermia take their clothes off believing themselves to be too hot. The cold blast might muddle your senses but does nothing good for your core temperature on a cold day.
Supposedly this is also a good way to close your pores so you don’t keep sweating once you get out of a hot shower.
Funny. I do exactly the opposite for the exact same reason but inverted. I.e., turn the temperature up to unbearably hot for the last 30 seconds. That way, the cold air comes as a relief and you’re functionally shielded from discomfort for the time it takes to get dry and covered.
It’s more counterintuitive than controversial, but I do all my weight lifting at home and don’t go to the gym, and get just as much results as a gym-going person. With modest investments in dumbbells, kettle bells, exercise bands, household items and creativity can do all you need with less cost and hassle of a gym membership.
Husband does this, I like going somewhere to work out because it’s more fun, though. I do lift his weights, and go to yoga classes with other people, that works. He says it was expensive to get all that stuff but it was so long ago it’s paid off.
I mostly just want to gently suggest that part of what people are getting from “the gym” is socialization, not just exercise. Which might be something you’d pay to avoid, I don’t know, but group exercise is a different experience from just lifting at home, and I enjoy it much more.
Yeah it would be worth it for socialization, I can see that. Other factors for me though are eliminating the travel and preparation time ( I don’t need to be reasonably showered and dressed to get started, for example). And that I can work from home off and on while train, I could probably do that at the gym too…
I need more social activity so you’ve got me thinking about going to the gym!
There must be a lot of dumbbells in the world if this is counterintuitive. It’s smart.
Automate as many chores as possible. Optimize any manual chores. Create a routine where you only do chores one day a week, in a specific order like a speedrun, to be all set for the entire week. A routine so easy you can do it on your worst days. Sick? Tired? Depressed? No problem, your living space doesn’t suffer. Make your home a sanctuary where the only thing you feel is peace.
Money spent on optimizing your life is replaceable, time spent worrying about chores or having a pile of chores is not. Buy disposable dishes and cutlery, mop and vacuum bots, smart appliances and lights, and utilize convenient services. Yes, flipping a light switch is easy, but never ever having to begrudgingly drag your depressed nauseated drowsy sore self out of bed to flip the switch is worth it. One day, you’ll be feeling horrible, and you’ll be so relieved that you can just switch off the appliance or light with your phone.
Now I’d go further and suggest living in an apartment or condominium, and not having a car. Live in walking or biking distance of work. Driving is stressful and you hate it. Stop paying so much to get around the place you live in!
Also save more for utilities & rent every time you’re paid. I get paid weekly and I save 1.25 weeks worth for every bill, 1.50 or 2 weeks if I did overtime. Every 4 months, I have at least one month of each bill saved. This way I can take a day, week, or even a month off of work and I have enough for all bills and groceries and stuff I don’t need. Taking an unpaid day off to play the hot new game did not put me on the slippery slope that leads to homelessness. It did nothing, actually. I could take the whole week off for a video game if I wanted to and I’m still completely secure. Bills still get paid, I still have a job, literally everything is okay.
Live in peace, it’s possible. Adulthood is awesome. If you literally want to watch cartoons and play games after work then optimize your life so you can. It’s controversial because everyone would rather be part of slow moving traffic going 32 inches a minute to create more chores at home but have zero energy or time to do them, and spend their time off work planning on doing the chores, but going grocery shopping manually instead and still having no time or energy to do the chores, and instead of changing anything about their lives they antagonize the one family member who doesn’t have piles of decade old chores because she fucking lives in the current year and utilizes conveniences, while spending all their time not doing chores or working watching subpar TV shows wishing they had space to do hobbies they’d be able to do if they didn’t have decade old piles of dirty laundry and boxes still unpacked today despite moving into the house years before Barack Obama became president.
