although honestly, the guys need unsettling compliments once in a while. they need to shake their entitled sense of security and to learn that they are loveable

  • Twinklebreeze @lemmy.worldEnglish
    35·
    2 months ago

    As a cis dude that’s mostly straight, I want to cat call all the boys I see running in those short shorts with no shirt on. Jog your athletic abs over here baby. They’re good looking, and I hope I can make their day. Haven’t done it yet, though.

    • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      31·
      2 months ago

      Everyone’s making some implications about you based off of that “mostly” which really isn’t cool. That “mostly” tells me you know yourself better than a lot of people

        • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          3·
          2 months ago

          Sorry, didn’t mean to speak for you, it’s just a trend I notice a lot especially with genderqueer stuff.

          “I enjoy this generally feminine thing as a guy”

          And then a billion people come out of the woodwork saying things like “egg spotted” “who’s gonna tell em?” “Are you sure you’re male?” And that is absolutely toxic and harmful. So, I try to call out that sort of thing when I see it. Either they know who they are and are comfortable with themselves, in which case those kinds of comments can get real old real fast, or they’re not and those comments push them further away from exploring their identity. For trans people it’s called the egg prime directive, based off of the star trek principle of non-interference with developing planets.

  • smorty/maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    192·
    2 months ago

    hehehe i wan to call bois lik dis too <3 <3 <3 bt i wana go evn furthr!! :o

    i rlli lik the idea of babytalking guys to like - to no end!! <3 <3 <3

    i imagine many wud like thad !!! (i kindsa wud so why not thos guys too ~?)

    when guy does somthn gud i go

    • aawww u did so guuud! *looks at u lovlili* yesyes u did this so supr nice n perfectli n like uhm.- im veri proud of u please kno that oki? ~ <3

    when guy is done aftr work

    • u don for the day ~ ? - - - oh nononono i didn mean it in a bad way, im jus happi that u found an endin - becuz working all day is-- well i believe it cnt be gud ovr time-- so much work n physical… yea no, jus be here with me n imma… imma get the hearts blankie - hold on!

    when guy eeps

    • *watches furiously how breath leaves nostrils* :o
        • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPMEnglish
          4·
          2 months ago

          cute girls gotta be careful about being too inviting to dudes. you sadly gotta watch out for ppl in your dms if you comment like that too often

          • smorty/maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            32·
            2 months ago

            i rlli wana believe thad making dudes in general the “kind of person to watch out for and have a higher defense against” feels evil and bad.

            i say dis cuz i am unfortunateli still masc presentin n i always specificalli look away from women to destroy thad vrri idea. i try and keep my distance, to not make it seem lik im followin anyone. i try n show that men arent the first-person-shooter-playing, porn-consuming, aggressive, loud, angry and capitalist rapists some people think they r…

            i imagine most peeps r reasonbl. n i feel havin to put up a barrier cuz som peeps r supr dupr evil, feels sad n unfair…

            (also i guess id alsuu say these things to not-guys so lik-i guess i cud hav made it mor unspecific)

            • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPMEnglish
              4·
              2 months ago

              I’ve never fully understood the mindset that compels some guys to be so awful, but some guys really are shitheads. It does seem largely social, but it’s also extra enticing to cis guys over other folk. Being told you’re special and deserve to be in charge for being yourself is a seductive message, just like the argument for white supremacy or ultra nationalism.

              It doesn’t mean all men will get roped in or that any need to stay in, but it is still a real threat that it isn’t your responsibility to solve. Keep yourself safe before sacrificing for others.

  • GluWu@lemm.eeEnglish
    17·
    2 months ago

    Me whos last compliment was the cashier at circle k saying nice shirt 3 years ago

    • whodatdair@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      15·
      2 months ago

      A random girl told me I had beautiful eyes in line for an amusement park ride about 5-7 years ago and I still think about it 🤣

      • AnyOldName3@lemmy.worldEnglish
        7·
        2 months ago

        If you’re dying of thirst, you wouldn’t appreciate a life preserver and if you were drowning, you wouldn’t appreciate a glass of water. Lots of men are so compliment-starved that they’d appreciate being catcalled even with all the negative implications, and I imagine that plenty of men who catcall have never considered that them appreciating the same in reverse wouldn’t mean there’s no good reason for women not to want to be catcalled.

    • Glytch@lemmy.worldEnglish
      3·
      2 months ago

      If you can, grow a handlebar mustache. I get complimented on mine everyday I’m out in public. Once established it only takes about 10 minutes of maintenance a week to keep it trimmed and waxed.

  • univers3man@lemmy.worldEnglish
    15·
    2 months ago

    Honestly, this would make my day. I still remember the first time a girl said she liked my hair, ahd that was like 15 years ago.