He’s 48, the girl is 17. Yes, their relationship is legal here; legality is not the point, but morality and ethics - I don’t think it’s okay. They’ve been dating for a few months now. I only found out about it recently when he started bringing her home to spend the night (I’m 19 and live with him). Dad’s been widowed since 2023. Her parents know and support this relationship - heard it straight from their mouth when they came to visit. My family believes the girl is a gold digger so she’s the one in the wrong. My dad and I are very close, he’s always been an amazing dad, supports me in every way a person can be supported… I’m queer and being queer in Romania isn’t well received to say the least, but he’s always had my back and I feel safe because of him. Now for him to go and do something like this… I talked to both him and the girl, he says it’s just something that happened (he didn’t go looking for it); she says she loves being spoilt and how “chill” my dad is (she characterized the relationship as a cold day in bed under the warm covers). I don’t really know what I’m looking to hear honestly, but I want to talk about it.
I’m 34 and my partner is 54, We’ve been together for over 10 years, this is the best and strongest relationship both of us have had, not that I have had many, but my partner has and he says he’s the happiest he’s ever been with me.
17 is young but it isn’t too young (imo), she might be mature for her age and they might work really well together.
Not sure what point I’m trying to make, other than this kind of age gap does not always mean doom and gloom and that your dad could have found someone he could really enjoy being with, and you don’t want to destroy his happiness do you?
Your relationship started 7 years later, that’s a big difference, and your age gap is 20y, theirs is 31 years. And she is younger than his child. Big big differences.