I mean, this isn’t a shower thought, it’s more of a vent or rant.

I get it, but you’ll likely find a more responsive vibe in communities meant for this kind of topic.

But look, quality of life is a huge thing that people dismiss. Until something happens to them that makes them face the matter and make the decision whether or not the balance is there for them.

Some folks don’t even get that freedom because it happens so early in life that it’s something you never can avoid dealing with.

Your complaint is a valid one, and worthy of respect. It’s something we as a society need to address and help people with, no matter what kind of help they need and want.

For some people, care facilities are acceptable. For others they’re a fucking nightmare. But they’re never ideal. They’re never a good life, they’re just life. And, the closer to actual independence someone is, the worse it can be. It’s like when someone can almost imagine a life away from constant care and misery, it grinds even harder that it can’t be reached.

I dunno what to tell you really, and I don’t think you wanted anyone to tell you anything. Looks more like you wanted to scream into the void and see if there were echoes.

So, I’ll just repeat that what you’re saying is perfectly valid, perfectly understandable, and nobody should have to live like that.

Do you know what the “Nuclear Football” is? Go check it out

True! But not a shower thought.

Repeat that when you are in said situation.